Therapy & Counseling

In my experience, people seek out therapy or counseling for many different reasons. Often relationship or intimacy issues, or painful life events. Sometimes it is a desire, or an ache, for something more in life or a feeling that something isn't right.

Life can be difficult and it is a natural impulse to avoid painful feelings or find ways to get rid of them altogether. Yet distancing ourselves from our authentic experience often comes at a cost. Living with that cost, I believe, is what brings many people to therapy.

William Faulkner writes, “The past is never dead. It's not even past; it's always part of the present.” One way to understand Faulkner’s words is to see that the pains of our past live in our unconscious and shape our inner world. In other words, when we don’t deal with our problems, patterns, and secrets, they don’t simply disappear. They go to the basement, work out, and get stronger.

We humans are fortunate, however, because over time we can grow psychologically and emotionally. Because we are shaped in relationship, it is often through relationship that growth and change take place.

Speaking openly while being listened to by another who is deeply attentive can help us make sense of our experiences, integrate difficult feelings, and work through longstanding difficulties. Exploring these difficulties takes courage, but it can also be among the most meaningful and rewarding work we undertake. Real change is possible.

I work with people experiencing depression, anxiety, relationship issues, hopelessness, sexual problems, mood disorders, confusion, addiction, and many other forms of distress. This list is purposefully incomplete but hopefully gives you ideas of different symptoms that one might bring to therapy to be talked about, explored, and worked with over time.

Research consistently shows that developing a good relationship with a therapist is one of the most important elements of effective treatment; if not the most important. For this reason, I find setting up an initial phone call to hear one another can often be a useful way to begin.

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